Earlier this year when Abdulwahab Oseni, a friend of mine was sharing screenshots of a book he was reading on his Whatsapp status, I reached out to him to find out the title of the book. When he said The Prosperity Paradox, I felt it sounded like a book I would love to read, I mean – who doesn’t like prosperity. The book however is not a self-help book on prosperity, rather it focuses on how innovation can lift nations out of poverty.

Let me confess upfront that what I read in the book wasn’t exactly what I thought I would. Like Feyi Fawehinmi wrote about the book, I was initially like ‘after all, there are many books like this out there.’ Most books either introduce you to something new or build on something you knew before, The Prosperity Paradox in my opinion does something different – it shattered what I thought I knew. It felt like some kind of new theology that unsettles your earlier doctrines.

Some years back, when Fintechs started springing up in Nigeria, the word disruptive innovation became a buzzword in the financial sector. This was because the traditional system of banking was being challenged and everyone had to sit up and look at better ways of doing things, the other alternative being – to close up shop and leave town! The Prosperity Paradox is written by the same man who defined and first analysed that buzzword – disruptive innovation – a term which has been called the most influential business idea of the early 21st century, Clayton M. Christensen. Prof. Christensen co-authored the book with two others, one of whom is Efosa Ojomo, who is originally from Nigeria but has spent the bulk of his adult life living and working in the United States. Having Ojomo on the team, I believe, helped in Nigeria receiving considerable mention (and attention) in the book. A good thing that was, because it really helped put the issues in Nigeria in context.

All of my life, I had always viewed business opportunities from the point of identifying an opportunity, or say, an opening in a market and jumping in to be a part of those cashing out – like for example, the Nigerian banking industry in the early ’90s or the Nigerian telecoms industry at the start of the millennium. But the book advises rather that entrepreneurs create the market. Hol-up, I thought it was the prerogative of governments to open up a market. Looking at the examples I cited earlier, entrepreneurs in the banking industry largely took advantage of government’s liberalization of banking licenses in the early ’90s, ditto for the GSM industry – the government had to do something first. The book advocates the other way round – entrepreneurs leading while government follows.

As I mentioned earlier, the book focuses on innovation, and the type of innovations that can lift nations out of poverty. In giving an hint about things to come, the book starts by saying that Not All Innovations Are Created Equal and then goes on to list the kinds of innovations as:

  1. Sustaining innovation, the type of innovation I knew growing up. I mean who doesn’t know of newly improved products? Commercials flaunting the re-branded and re-packaged products that now do more than it used to do before;
  2. Efficiency innovation, the one I got familiar with in the work place. Brainstorming sessions to come up with ideas to do more with less; and then,
  3. Market-creating innovation, the one that the book opened my eyes to and which is capable of changing the fortunes of not just the entrepreneurs involved, but also that of the nation it operates from.

You would recall that I mentioned earlier that the book put considerable focus on Nigeria. In one chapter, a Nigerian company was used at great length to illustrate one of the book’s ideas – the pull strategy. Take a guess. I bet you would think of one of the businesses of Nigerians on the Forbes list of Billionaires. No! Rather, it is a company dealing in noodles. It felt like an eureka moment for me – the point where I realize that many of the businesses in Nigeria don’t fall within the category of market-creating innovations. As the book says, it’s not that the other forms of innovations are bad, it’s just that they are ‘limited’. Let me allow the book speak for itself at this point –

For years, international scholars and media pundits have pointed to Mexico (substitute that for Nigeria and it still reads perfectly well) as the next potential superpower – but it’s always stuck there. Potential… But that is not going to happen until the country recognises that different types of innovations impact its economy differently. It’s not going to get there by relying on efficiency innovations alone.


If I am to summarize what the book does in few words, I would say – it is the fact that it calls us to put on new lenses in viewing prosperity – prosperity on the national scale, and not individual riches. It therefore advocates a shift to market-creating innovations, as only that can lift a country like Nigeria out of poverty into prosperity, just like it happened in America, Japan and South Korea. Hear what the book says,

Mexico and many other nations that are not yet prosperous have the ability to become thriving nations. But for prosperity to come about… we have to think about how to create new markets that serve the vast non-consumption.


The book is a recommended read for every Nigerian interested in the prosperity of Nigeria.

I am ‘Seun Alade

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“Failure is a feeling long before it becomes an actual result.”
Michelle Obama, Becoming.

As I was preparing to embark on the few weeks left of my annual leave, I was making mental notes of the things I needed to achieve before returning back to work. After a much needed rest, top on my list was to ensure I completed the book I had started reading, start & complete reading a new book and publish a post on my blog. Or how else do I convince myself I still love to read and write.

While I had an idea of the post I wanted to write, I had not decided on the book to read. Coincidentally, the week I started my leave was the same week Michelle Obama’s autobiographical memoir, Becoming was released. Everyday as I went through my news items on Google Discover I would read a newspaper article providing insight on the book – if it wasn’t on how she and her husband conceived their kids through IVF, then it would be on how they went through marriage counselling at a point in time. The romance kept building until I got a copy of the book and began to read for myself.

Even till this moment, I am yet to fully conceive the idea for the post I had intended to write. It then became very easy to conclude on writing a post to share lessons I picked from the book.

In discussing Becoming, I would group the things I learnt under two broad headings – living and loving.

1. Living

When we read biographies and autobiographies one of the things we seek to achieve is get an insight into how others lived their lives and what life lessons we can glean from them – what to emulate and pitfalls to avoid, and Becoming did a good deal of that – giving us access to the lives of America’s first African-American First Lady, and her husband, America’s first African-American President. Two life lessons I picked from the book are:

a. It’s okay to not have it all figured

Don’t start by getting me wrong on this. I am a firm believer in the saying that failing to plan is planning to fail. I sincerely do not advocate that people leave their lives to chances. However, I have also seen life rip though great plans with reckless abandon leading me to adopt the pragmatic view that leaves room for deviations and not give myself knocks for missing targets, and Becoming reinforces that. It’s why I said it’s okay to not have it “all” figured, that is, go ahead and have some figured, but don’t be too hard on yourself because there are still grey areas – blank spots that would be left un-filled. The best of us, Becoming reveals, don’t have it all figured out.

In Becoming, we come across two individuals who seem to have differing world views on how they approach the future. Michelle, who refers to herself as a detail person, the sort of person that plans for thirty (30) years in a row and ticks boxes as she achieves her goals, with one leading to the next and then another. And then there is Barack who takes on each challenge as it comes, with each challenge showing the path to follow. This is how Michelle describes Barack’s approach, “he was on some sort of quest, though he didn’t yet know where it would lead.”

Despite her knack for details, Michelle discovers after putting every thing into her dream of becoming a lawyer that the practice of law does not give her fulfilment! And Barack too, who never planned for a life in politics found himself offering to serve in the highest political office. And together, they both found themselves in the White House, without having that in their original plan.

Flexibility is key to life. In the road to fulfilment, we might make some detours, get some knocks, encounter some set backs – but none of these mean we have failed, or even that we are failing.

b. Live prepared

Does that sound contradictory to the first lesson? Even if does, good. Life is one big ball of oxymoron.

On July 27, 2004, Barack Obama, “a complete nobody” in Michelle’s own words, gave the keynote address at the Democratic National Convention. This was the 17-minutes address that shot Obama to limelight and announced him to the world, I know so because even the media headlines in Nigeria picked it.

The aftermath of the speech left the world seeing Obama as an overnight success since he was only a state senator and just on his way to be coming a US senator, but the wife showed us in Becoming that he had spent years working and preparing for such a day as that. She wrote, “over years, I’d watched him inhale books, newspapers and ideas… He’d stowed every piece of it… He’d been working at this thing, quietly and meticulously, as long as I’d known him.” Overnight success is a myth. No one stumbles into success. It might be interesting to note that Barack wrote his first book, Dreams from my Father nine years before that speech. After the speech, people went for the book and fetched it a spot on the New York Times bestseller list.

Whatever you do, keep at it, ensuring that you’re getting better, someday it will lead the world to your doorstep.

2. Loving

Part of what Michelle and Barack Obama have come to represent is the possibility of a faithful and lasting marriage. They have been able to stay in the eyes of the public and stay out of sexual scandals. It would therefore be good to learn what has helped sustain their relationship, and for me I was able to pick two things about their relationship which I discuss below.

a. Marry someone you love like crazy

Yeah, not just someone you love but someone you love like crazy because some days you need the ‘crazy’ to carry on.

There are several angles to relationships, one of which is physical connection. We are physical beings and have physical qualities that we find appealing, this physical angle matters as much as the other more serious angles, for this has a way of sustaining the fire in the relationship.

I share in the belief that in matters of love we should have standards and keep to them. In telling us about what she wanted in her dream man Michelle wrote extensively, “I knew what I wanted but couldn’t find the words. I hoped that someday my feelings for a man would knock me sideways, that I’d get swept into the upending, tsunami-like rush that seemed to power all the best love stories… I wanted to believe that there was a guy who’d materialize and become everything to me, who’d be sexy and solid and whose effect would be so immediate and deep that I’d be willing to re-arrange my priorities.” And it would seem that our princess got her prince charming.

In my opinion, I believe that many of us set out with the qualities we desire in our partners but begin to drop them one by one due to certain pressures. When Michelle talks about Barack you could almost feel the tinge in her voice. Her expectations helped her identify her man when he showed up on the scene, even though he had to still measure up to the indices on other areas, because ‘crazy in love’ doesn’t put food on the table.

b. Marry not just for the present

When Michelle met Barack, she was already a junior associate with a high-end law firm while Barack just finished his first year of law school, and on top of that, as is already widely known, she was assigned to be his mentor during his summer stint with the firm. Also, she was already making money and driving a Saab while he was driving what she referred to as a thing – “a snub-nosed, banana-yellow Datsun he’d bought used on his loan-strapped student budget. When he turned the key, the engine revved and the car spasmed violently before settling into a loud, sustained juddering that shook us in our seats” and also had “a rusted-out, four-inch hole in the floor.” Added to the list, Barack smoked, an habit Michelle considers dumb. Talk about a raw diamond standing before you that may well go unrecognized, but not Michelle. She went ahead to marry Barack even though it meant that after their wedding, he moved in into her apartment.

Why? You may ask. Because she saw potential in him, something we should bother looking for in a lover and not some material assets. Let me allow Michelle describe how she saw Barack, “to me, he was sort of like a unicorn-unusual to the point of seeming almost unreal. He never talked about material things, like buying a house or a car or even new shoes.”

As we say around here, marry someone with a vision, and not the one with only a television.

Thanks Michelle for finding your voice, owning your voice and using that voice to share Becoming with us.

I am ‘Seun Alade

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Dear son,

There are two posts that have been circulating on social media lately. The posts touch on the subject of paternity and as the learner that I am, I tried to distill the nuggets from the posts. One of the posts listed songs composed over the years to eulogise mothers. It seems pretty hard to lay hold on songs in honour of fathers, if they exist, they are scarce. Appalling, however, is the fact that majority of the composers of those songs were men, so, it wasn’t a case of ojoro!

The second post, not written in the hilarious manner the other was done, dived straight to the point. It chronicled the relationships between parents and their children as they grow and explained why at later years, children seem to be more interested in taking care of their mothers than their fathers.

The two posts were eye openers for me, they show an area where fathers, over the ages, have been failing – connecting with their children. I know that it’s easier for women to show their love side to their children, men are the ones who mask that side with macho. No doubt, fathers love their kids just as much as the mothers, the problem, however, lies in the expression of that love. 

And while thinking on the topic of paternity, here is what I found out – that today’s dads, more than those before them, are fully aware that being a father is more that just donating DNA, nevertheless, they fail to clearly express their love to their child(ren). I also found out that many men in their bid to show love to their kids bury themselves in work and career to make ends meet and give their children a better life than they had growing up, failing to realize that this doesn’t count much in children’s love meter. The only other aspect many dads get involved in their kids’ upbringing is in instilling discipline, something that makes them seem like the scary bogeyman.

Son, I have always desired to be your first best friend. I know with time, you’d choose one of your peers as a best friend, but I hope to always give that person a run for the title. I know that won’t come easy, as one of the songs in vogue puts it – enu o se. But I am determined. It’s why I do what I do – deliberately making sure I’m involved in your total upbringing.

And it’s amazing that you have begun to acknowledge my little efforts. I love that your first word was da da; I love that you got around to not just calling daddy before you clocked one, but that you also made a song out of it; I love that you sometimes cry when I’m leaving the house; I love how you reject to be carried by others when I’m carrying you; I love the smiles you give me when you see me; I love that you encourage me to be the kind of dad I always wanted to be; and I love that you urge me on.

Your mum knows that I desire a blissful relationship with you, I have never hidden it. I love a sweet father-son relationship, it is one to fight for, not as a competition with your mum though. I know you love her too and I am not jealous, just as I also love her dearly. There is so much love to share without competing. My desire is to epitomise the love God has for his children – being our provider, our guardian, yet our chastiser. I hope, that I provide a good mirror for you to see God and that I make it easy for you to find Him.

Your one year birthday is many celebrations rolled into one, one of which is celebrating my one year of fatherhood, which has been dope. Your mum says the work just began, and I perfectly agree with her. I am not resting on my oars, I will build on the good thing we got going.

My father says one’s first child is like a sibling. So, here’s wishing a happy birthday to my son, brother and friend, Obafunto Samuel, God’s favorite son.

I am ‘Seun Alade

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Some years ago, I took my younger siblings to their school and while I was waiting in the school lounge, my eyes caught a frame on the wall – it was Abraham Lincoln’s letter to his son’s teacher. That was my first time of seeing it, and somehow I knew within me that I wanted to write many letters, not to my son’s teacher though, but, to my son (kids, really).

Recently, it became clearer what form the letters would take, and what I wanted to achieve with them. I wanted to share my life experiences with my son (and the rest of humanity), I wanted to share life lessons, things I had learnt on the way, or that I was learning from. More recently, it became obvious that I should start writing the letters. But I didn’t start, until today. So, on this blog, I begin a new series which would appear under the category – Letter to my son.

While the earth remains, seedtime and harvest… shall not cease.  Genesis 8:22 

Son, our world is governed by principles. These are universal laws not limited to a geographical space, race or creed. They are natural laws that cannot be broken. The law of gravity, for example is not a respecter of person or place. If I throw up a stone in my native Ikogosi, the stone would find its way back to the earth. If your mother decides to do the same thing in the place of her birth, Ibadan, the result will be the same. Even across the globe, in God’s own country, the United States of America, the stone will not hang in space.

There is nothing we can do for, or against these principles/laws. As Cecil B. deMille said, ‘It is impossible for us to break the law, we can only break ourselves against the law.’ Our lives, however, will be the better if we live guided by these principles. In recent times, I began to study principles, pay closer attention to them, and learn how to live by them. 

Today, I want to write to you about the law I think I am most conscious of – the law of seed and harvest. I am not talking about it in just the microscopic way in which many see it – sowing money and reaping money in thousands fold. But rather in a broader sense, and a sense in which many are not even aware of it, that deeds, our actions, are also seeds. 

As you would get to know of me, I greatly eschew evil and I can’t really say it is because of my faith. Even if I were to be one of no faith, I would still dread evil as much as I do now. I am constantly aware of the fact that if I sow evil, I will reap evil! I do not mean to say that I am perfect, to be candid, I am way too far from being perfect. 

The law of seed and harvest is also referred to as the law of cause and effect, law of retribution, law of Karma. My people, the philosophical Yorubas of southwest Nigeria call retribution Esan. This is close in meaning to what Ralph Waldo Emerson calls it, the law of compensation, which he also refers to as the law of laws.

Simply put, the law says that you reap what you sow. Commenting on this law, a wise man said once you choose a cause of action, the power to change the effect had been taken off you. No amount of strategy or brainstorming sessions can alter the effect, except one re-visits the action. This, I believe, is why the Yorubas say esan o gb’ogun, roughly translated, that means effect cannot be altered. If you decide to plant yam, prayers or strategies can’t change your harvest to cocoa.

While many are aware of this law, as it relates to agriculture, and also to finances, a lot of people still forget to realise that it also applies to our actions in life. Our political space is replete with real life stories to show you this law in action. There was once a man who scuttled the presidential ambition of another, only for his own presidential ambition to be scuttled, much later, and in a more gruesome manner. There was also the young politician who ridiculed a much older statesman, only for him to suffer ridicule at the very peak of his career. 

Son, deeds are seeds, sow good deeds!

Your dad,

 ‘Seun Alade

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*B’oni ti ri, ola o ri be, ni ng mu babalawo d’ifa oroorun.

I was at an official retreat recently, and one word has refused to leave me since then – change. And I do not mean the hypocritical change being mouthed by our politicians at the moment.

The buzzword today in the industry I work in is disruptive technology. Disruptive technology is a subset of disruptive innovation, which Wikipedia defined as an innovation that creates a new market and value network and eventually disrupts an existing market and value network, displacing established market leading firms, products and alliances.

In our industry, new entrants are leveraging on technology, new products are riding the waves of technology and the boundary between our traditional business and businesses in other industries is being thinned out by technology. Technology is doing us strong thing, we could whine all we wanted but that wouldn’t change a thing. We are smart, so we know we have just two options – evolve or go into extinction. We therefore focus on how technology was redefining our business and how we can leverage on that. 

Late last year, I had the privilege of being in a meeting with someone I would call a veteran, he retired from the industry having reached the peak of his career and I couldn’t help but notice how he referred to the different era in which he operated – same industry, different times, vast difference. In his time, when they opened books of records, they meant it, now, when we open books, it could just be an excel sheet.

Some few years back, if someone wanted to discuss companies and how they responded to change, you would list RIM (makers of blackberry smartphone) as one of the game changers who rode on the back of innovations to become a force to watch and the toast of investors. Today, things have further changed, the game changers are the likes of Facebook, Instagram and Whatsapp, while RIM is now a struggling brand, in the same list as Nokia and Yahoo. 

Change is a dynamic constant force, that almost read like an oxymoron. Statistics show that only 71 companies from the original Fortune 500 list, compiled in 1955, are still in operation. The other 429 have either been bought out or gone under, classical example of – nothing stays the same for ever. In our country, as with many countries of the world, telecommunication companies (telcos) are money-spinners, so much so that job applicants see them as the next viable option after IOCs (International Oil Companies) but today, the going is not as sweet as it used to be. 

Recently, we woke up to the news that telcos in Nigeria were considering shutting out Over-The-Top (OTT) services like Whatsapp, Skype etc as they realised those OTT services were running them out of business. As OTT services are giving telcos a run for their money, Financial Technology (FinTech) companies are giving financial service providers a run. I don’t know what industry you operate in but I assure you things are changing there as well, disruptive innovations are coming for us all. 

In all of these, it might be easy to assume that corporates are the ones who need to brace up against the coming revolution of disruptive technologies, not so. We forget that as it affects corporates, so it affects nations and individuals. Evolutionists say man has had to adapt over the ages and that’s why we are still here. The creatures that didn’t adapt, like dinosaurs, are extinct. It means we must always think of newer and better ways of doing whatever it is that we do. 

As it stands, someone somewhere is thinking of how to change how you work or take your job altogether. You, therefore, can’t afford to be rigid, you must be ready to evolve. Think of the so many job functions of the past century that are no longer relevant. Forget how the books say it must be done, pay attention to Alvin Toffler’s words that – the illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn. You’ve got to constantly reinvent yourself to stay relevant.

In my opinion, our approach should be like those of the lion and the gazelle in Christopher McDougall’s book, Born to Run: A Hidden Tribe, Superathletes, and the Greatest Race the World Has Never Seen – every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up, it knows it must outrun the fastest lion or it will be killed. Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the slowest gazelle, or it will starve. It doesn’t matter whether you’re the lion or a gazelle-when the sun comes up, you’d better be running. Proactivity is the key – always stay ahead of the game.

PS: *The priest consults Ifa daily because he knows that each new day would be different from the last.

I am ‘Seun Alade

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Those who have followed this blog for a while would have noticed that I write New Year notes. And you guessed right, here is the one for this year. You may then ask – what sort of a New Year note gets published this late? As this won’t be my first time of being late posting my New Year note, my answer still is – whatever time a man wakes up, that is his morning. It is, always, better late than never. So, from me to you, on this blog, this is Happy New Year.

You would agree that a year without a game plan may end up wasted. Time flies, and it also waits for no one. Time has a way of casting deceptive spells on us, something that makes us feel we have some time on our hands before the future gets here. Wake up and smell the coffee! Today was yesterday’s tomorrow, and see how it hopped on us already. Today is the future we saw some twenty years ago. You could almost bet we skipped some years in between. 

This is the reason why we can’t afford foot-dragging. We must be deliberate about what we do today, as our actions today are the seeds of what we will harvest when that future comes. Decisions birth actions, and sometimes one decision can alter a life journey all together. And talking about decisions, that leads me to something I want to share with you today.

I spent the last Christmas holiday with my parents. And one night during that holiday, I joined my dad at the balcony, taking in fresh air before the generator came up. I had been with him for some minutes and we had touched some short topics. And then after a brief silence he mentioned that his colleagues in the teaching service retired that year. True, he joined the teaching service of the then Ondo state government in 1981, and had he stayed, all things being equal, he would have retired last year, probably as the headmaster of a primary school in Ekiti state. But one decision changed that and altered the course of his life.

Growing up, I had heard the stories, I always knew he was a primary school teacher until 1984 when he decided to get a university education. I knew he was a bit comfortable as a teacher, then a bachelor and able to afford some of the things he always desired, one of them, a brand new Suzuki motorcycle. But I didn’t know what led him to leave. That night, I asked him why he left. He said he left because he was never satisfied with his Grade 2 teaching certificate, and he had to do something about it. Don’t get it wrong, my dad has nothing against teaching or teachers, he just wasn’t satisfied with his educational qualifications. 

You know how many of us are not satisfied with where we are, and all we do is whine. Whining doesn’t do it. What we need to do is take a decision and follow it up with action. I know it is not a walk in the park. My dad’s story inspires me because I know that he, literally, took a leap in the dark. What he did may seem like an easy thing to do, but let me tell you why it wasn’t as easy as you might think. In 1984, Nigeria was in deep economic crisis, the figures weren’t encouraging and the rate of unemployment was rising. Nigeria in 1984 was in many ways similar to Nigeria in 2016, maybe that helps to drum the point home. It was not a good time for the son of poor farmers to decide to leave a job. It didn’t look like the best of decisions for a young man who was then self reliant and helping his mother with stipends to go back to school and require the financial assistance of that poor mother. 

As he told me that night, many only saw his decision as the folly of young age. He said, one early morning, after he had informed his colleagues that he already got admission into the university and would be resigning his appointment, a more elderly friend of his came visiting. The man told him what he already knew – that it wasn’t a good time to resign. He couldn’t leave his job for school when the government just increased their pay, when the economy was bleeding and when university graduates were no longer sure of employment. It was an advice from a caring heart. But, is there anything like a perfect time? As the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 11:4a, farmers who wait for perfect weather never plant (NLT).

That singular decision altered the course of my dad’s life, and we are all the better for it. I have shared this story for just one reason – to encourage someone take that bold step. You are in a good place, but you know it is not your place. The reason why you are still there is because you feel safe there, some sort of a comfort zone. As they say, the comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing grows there. This year, make that decision that your generations will be proud you made. It could be hard, but you know your life depends on it. My dad was (and still is) full of gratitude to God for the decision he made that year. Make this year count for you. Once again, happy new year.

I am ‘Seun Alade

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I have been writing birthday notes since 2011 when I turned 25. However, this is only the 4th in the series (didn’t get to write some). My birthday notes seek to share glimpses from the years past. This year, I will be sharing two of the principles that have helped guide my life in these past 30 years and hoping that it benefits someone.

1. No regret

If you know me, then you will realize that the word regret doesn’t feature in my dictionary. Thinking back on the 30 years of my sojourn on planet earth, I honestly can’t think of a single regret in my life. It’s not that I have had the best of life, or that I have lived in the best way possible. Rather, it is that I realized that having regrets over what is past is a pure waste of time. As someone rightly put it, regret is the past crippling you in the present.

Regret and worry are two children of the same mother. While worry has been said to be the interest on a loan you never take, I say regret is interest you’re paying on a loan you’ve long paid off. Both are fraud on your asset – time. Absolutely worthless and unnecessary!

I practise what you may call conscious living – careful with my words, thoughts and actions so that they don’t wreck havoc. But mistakes do happen and when that occurs, I make effort to correct it today. I am an ardent believer in ‘today.’ I believe that today provides me with an opportunity to correct my error, rewrite my story and re-live my past. I don’t dwell on things that are in the past because mistakes made in the past are meant to stay there and they can’t be changed – except by correcting them through my deeds today.

One of the great lessons I learnt from the life of Alfred Nobel is that I can make my past irrelevant by what I do today, and going forward. And that’s the consciousness with which I live. Regrets don’t fix nothing, but today can fix everything – hurt, pain, loss etc.

2. No competition

It’s possible that like me you’ve come across one of those rickety buses with an inscription at the back screen – no competition in destiny. Some hard truth you have there.

Another thing I learnt early in my journey in life is that success can not be measured in absolute terms. Put in familiar language, success is a journey not a destination. Contrary to popular belief in this part of the world where people thought to be successful are said to have arrived, when it comes to success you don’t ever arrive.

Let me share a personal story to buttress this. In 2003, in between writing WAEC and NECO I sat for the UME. I obtained a high score that qualified me for admission to the university. Sitting for JAMB and hitting it once, now that is some success and it could have gotten to my head but it didn’t. I told myself that getting admission ahead of many of my classmates didn’t mean I was more successful than them – and true, OAU didn’t resume until 2004, I was in school for a 5-year course, and still had to go to law school. You see, some of my friends who still had JAMB as prayer point 1 when I had crossed that mark had started working before I went for NYSC.

One of the means used to mount pressure on people in this part of the world is by comparing you with your mates. Sounds familiar, right? Your mates have finished school, your mates have started working, your mates are married, your mates have built their own houses blah blah blah. You know what I tell myself? I don’t have mates! Mine is a unique life and I won’t run my race with another person’s stop watch.

Don’t get me wrong. I review my life periodically. I have goals and targets for my life. I am a big dreamer. As a nine year old boy I began having dreams of what I wanted to be in life. Upon reaching milestones, such as clocking 30 today, I call up that nine year old boy who dreamed without restraints and show him my life report. I ask him if I have lived up to his expectation or if I have failed him. That nine year old boy may not be too impressed but he isn’t disappointed. I am on the right track, maybe just some few steps behind but I’m sure I will catch up. Like I say, the best life wasn’t handed down to me, but this one life that I have got, I will make the best out of it.

I’m absolutely grateful for the last 30 years, and immensely hopeful about the days ahead. Truth is, I don’t know what tomorrow holds but I know who holds tomorrow and in this I am confident that my tomorrow is secured, insured and guaranteed.

I am ‘Seun Alade

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